Finding Balance in the Beautiful Mess of Parenting: A Conversation with Susan Notis
Dec 01, 2025
Dear Parents,
Parenting a child with a history of trauma or emotional struggle can feel like walking a tightrope while juggling chainsaws—blindfolded. That's a bit of hyperbole there. Still, one moment you’re doing your best to stay connected; the next, you’re tangled in your child’s emotions, unsure where you end and they begin.
In this episode of Unmuted Love, Ce sits down with Susan Notis, founder of In Balance Parent Coaching and co-author of The Perfectly Imperfect Family. Together, they explore what it really means to guide a family out of exhaustion and chaos and into a place of connection and balance.
Susan’s approach is an integrative blend of coaching and attachment-informed wisdom, a grounded, compassionate method that helps parents find their center again. Because honestly, healing in a family begins not with perfection, but rather with balance.
Ce and Susan dig into one of the trickiest concepts in trauma-informed parenting--the difference between secure attachment and enmeshment. While both can look like deep connection on the surface, Susan explains that true secure attachment creates space for both parent and child to breathe, grow, and choose. Enmeshment, on the other hand, blurs those emotional lines until everyone feels reactive. By finding balance between connection and boundaries, you’re not just managing behavior. You are modeling emotional regulation and relational safety.
If your parenting sometimes feels like an emotional seesaw, this conversation will help you step off and find your footing again. It’s about learning that you don’t need to fix your child—you just need to stay in balance with them.
Your Love Matters,
Ce
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