Books
Drowning with My Hair on Fire is a lifeline for adoptive parents trying to navigate the choppy waters of raising adopted children from difficult beginnings.
Author Ce Eshelman’s beautiful heart really shines through in the hundreds of letters to parents to read each day when needing hope, inspiration, advice, direction, reminders, or practical help. She deeply understands them and the chaos of their lives and families because she was there, but is now able to give them the wisdom culled from reading every book on the subject, attending hundreds of seminars and workshops, years of her own therapy, and fearlessly facing her own mistakes. If you are raising a traumatized, attachment-challenged child, Ce is the friend you want, and this is the book you need.
“Ce is the real deal. She's one of those rare gems who deeply cares about the people she serves. She is willing to freeze frame and blow up her mistakes for you to see so you can avoid the same pitfalls. She then points to the path of secure attachment. The book itself is a secure base you can return to again and again when things get difficult at home.”
—Jennifer Olden, LMFT, Certified EFT Therapist
20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew
Have you ever wished you could tell friends and family what life is really like in your family? Parenting children from difficult beginnings of adoption and trauma can be quite a lonely journey.
As much as you try to get support from those who love you, you find they just don't get you or your child. They often misunderstand the kind of therapeutic parenting you are doing and why.
Well-meaning folks simply give you the wrong advice, judge you, or throw up their hands just before they start to fade out of your lives.
This little book of letters is written from the perspective of a child from difficult beginnings to their extended family and friends-of-the-family. It conveys an honest and hopeful look at how to support both traumatized children and their parents.
Finally, here is a way to share with those you love helpful guidance about the child you love.