Consequences Don’t Have to Hurt
Nov 20, 2025
Dear Parents,
Most traditional parenting strategies will not work long term with an attachment challenged child. However, it is important to allow natural and logical consequences to persist in your child's life because it is the way of the world and children need to understand that over time. Still natural and logical consequences will likely not create huge behavioral changes.
A natural and logical consequence becomes punishment when you deliver it by withholding love and giving anger, disapproval, rage, put downs, rejection, hopelessness, and dismissiveness.
This type of negative emotional consequencing is punishment. It doesn't work long-term to change behavior and it makes gashes on the heart of your relationship with your child. That punishment can last a lifetime.
A loving, short talk is a logical consequence. That will change behavior faster than your expressed rage, disappointment, disgust, anger, frustration, rejection or dismissal. Why?
Because a loving relationship changes the heart (otherwise known as the brain) of your child. Two for the price of one.
Love heals.
Your Love Matters,
Ce
This week’s Unmuted Love podcast episode can be found at the links below:
🎧 Listen here!
📺 Watch on YouTube!
Creator of the Love+ Parenting Model found only in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program.
📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
📣 Hear the Success Stories
👉 Find Ce on Social Media:
🔹 Instagram
🔹 Facebook
Stay connected with news and updates!
Join our mailing list to receive the latest news and updates from our team.
Don't worry, your information will not be shared.