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Toxic Stress (Part 2 of 2)

Mar 12, 2023

Dear Parent,

The only way to change the toxic stress that may be poisoning your family life is to get on board a huge parent Self-care Regimen for yourself and a daily Felt Safety diet for your child.   

Felt Safety Diet:

  1.  First and foremost: Well regulated parents who have an established Self-care Regimen.
  2. A slow pace.  Pretend you live in a small sleepy town where no one feels the need to speed.  Then, don't speed, rush, hustle, bustle, race, multi-task, or try to live three lives at once.
  3. Attune to your child's needs for connection, engagement, attention, playfulness.  Play with your children.  Watching them play is not the same thing.
  4. Lose the concept of punishment and consequences.  Use structure and gentle correction instead.  If you use punishment and consequences, your child will fear you while continuing to do the things you don't want them to do.
  5. Set the behavior bar low, so your child is successful.  Praise like crazy for achieving it. Setting the bar too high will cause behavior like giving up, throwing in the towel, defiance, opposition, or not even trying.
  6. Accept your child for who they are, rather than for whom you wish they were. This is a big one.  Stop working so hard to make them different.  Imagine someone doing that to you every day, all day.
  7. Never forget that your child probably has some kind of sensory integration issue because children from difficult beginnings usually do.  Give them a steady schedule (every two hours) of physicality, healthy food/snacks and big hydration.
  8. Finally, work to insure your child's school is trauma informed, so your child isn't inadvertently emotionally harmed.

And there you have it: a healing Felt Safety Diet.

Self-care and Felt Safety Diets are delicious.

Love matters,

Ce

 

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