The Hidden Fear Behind Nonsensical Lies
Oct 23, 2025
Dear Parent,
Nonsensical lying makes sense if you understand the internal workings of children who come from difficult beginnings.
Nonsensical lying is triggered by exactly the same thing that triggers emotionally dysregulated meltdowns—pure fear. This can be a pervasive fear of the unknown, fear of being in trouble, fear of authority, fear of change, fear of danger, fear of vulnerability, fear of abuse, fear of being out-of-control, fear of giving up control, fear of death, fear of deprivation, fear of powerlessness, fear of loss, fear of abandonment, fear of you—fear.
When your child lies to you, tell her you know she is afraid and that's why she lied. Assure her that you are a safe person to tell the truth to and then be that safe person. Oh yeah, that is the hard part.
We parents usually have as much work to do on being safe, as children do on being honest.
Love Matters,
Ce
Creator of the Love+ Parenting Model found only in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program.
Want to overcome your child's destructive behavior? Follow this link to find out how you can join the Love Matters Parenting Society today: http://start.lovemattersparenting.com/guide
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🎧 Listen to my podcast: Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman at your favorite place to listen.
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
👉 Check out my Socials:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
Stay connected with news and updates!
Join our mailing list to receive the latest news and updates from our team.
Don't worry, your information will not be shared.