Dear Parent,
Try this. Cultivate some random positive feedback loops for your child(ren). Here is something simple that may be hard if you have recently been in a series of negative feedback loops.
Complete this Sweet Smear note and find a creative way to give it to the child about whom you are most concerned or most critical. If your child has a cell phone, text it.
Dear _______ ,
I want you to know that you are incredible! Here are just three of your incredible qualities:
________________ __________________ _________________
Love,
Mom/Dad
Now start thinking of the next positive feedback loop you can be part of creating. It's your life, too. How do you want to live it?
Love matters,
Ce Eshelman
P.S. Are you pulling your hair out trying to figure out the best way to parent your child from difficult beginnings? Get some real support here: The Love Matters Parenting Society. Honestly, you probably need this.
P.S.S. You can also grab a copy of Drowning With My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by yours truly. Parents really appreciate this bite-sized, inspiration.
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