Safe Brain

Dear Parent,

Sometimes parents want to know why they always have to tip toe around and be safe for the attachment challenged child and the child never has to take responsibility for bad behavior.

I remember feeling angry when I was first applying therapeutic parenting principles with my children.  It seemed I was always doing the work in the relationship.  And, I was so tired and frustrated.  How could I do even one more thing to be safe?  I was tired of trying to be safe! And, I was tired of failing at it.

If this sounds familiar, then you are parenting an attachment challenged child.  These are the persistent feelings that go with therapeutic parenting until the paradigm shift fully occurs.  

Keep going. This does get easier over time--a little more time than you might imagine, however.  Get some good respite time every day.  It helps.

Here are my gentlest words of wisdom:  You have to do all the work now simply because you are the parent and your child has a wounded heart smack in the middle of her brain.  There will be a pay off.  You might have to trust me on this.

This is the hardest thing you will ever do.  Embrace it when you can.  I liked myself as a parent so much better once I turned the corner on the therapeutic parenting track.  I am a better person all around today because I did the work.  

Therapeutic parenting feels more loving.

Love matters,

Ce

P.S. Check out the Love Matters Parenting Society membership for more support.