Father's Day: Dads Are Priceless

Dear Parent,

Hello Daddy-Os (and mothers wearing their #1 Dad’s ball caps.) Finally, a day for you to get up early, round up the kids, clean up breakfast fiascoes, open a box of well intended kid coupons or golf accessories rarely to be used, and survive parenting another day.  Oh dear, too cynical?  And enjoy the delight of parenting another day. That's what I meant to say.

Father's Day was initiated in 1910 by a daughter of a single father of six living at the YMCA.  Kinda glad that isn't you, right?  Single parents of any gender and any number of children get my hat tip for your tenacity and grit.  

Mothers of attachment challenged children usually get the spotlight because they are often the target of attachment grief and reactivity in their children.  Fathers often find they have a different experience altogether.  

It may be that your life partner is stressed a lot these days. Your children seem mostly fine to you, but she doesn't think so. You can kind of see what she means, but not entirely and they are kids after all.  You don't want to read books and go to parenting classes, but you support the household as much as you can.  You want to enjoy life more and stress less. Carve out some fun time this weekend. You deserve it.

On the other hand, you might be the target of your children's emotional duress.  If so, you need a day of love and peace. Make sure you get it.  

Fathers are as important as mothers to the development of attachment challenged, traumatized children.

Love matters.

Ce

P.S. Check out the Love Matters Parenting Society membership for more support.