Attachment Panic Melt

Dear Parent,

Attachment panic in our children is painful and scary. It occurs when insecurely attached children experience abandonment at the core of their being. It is triggered by some kind of deprivation--major or minor, real or perceived. When the child feels that core abandonment, she goes into survival mode--fight, flight, freeze, or befriend--because at least once, and often many times in the past, she endured the bone chilling fear of eminent death by abandonment.  

What you need to know is that you cannot always prevent this kind of triggered panic. Over time you can build in your child a felt sense of safety by creating a sensory-rich environment, being an attuned parent, and helping your child understand that manipulation, excessive control and violence are misguided ways to get connection. It takes a long time to turn this around and heal the wounds. Keep the faith. 

Healing happens in time with consistent therapeutic parenting.

Love matters,

Ce

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