Arleen Tyndall’s Journey from Perfection to Freedom
Nov 03, 2025
Dear Parent,
We all have that version of ourselves, the one who wants to get it right. To look good. To hold it all together even when our hearts are unraveling.
For Arleen Tyndall, that version became a mask so polished it nearly erased her true self. In her Unmuted Love conversation with Ce, Arleen opens up about the quiet ache beneath her perfection and the reckoning that began when she left everything familiar to travel to Bali.
She thought she was going to learn about her ancestry. Instead, she discovered her inheritance: generations of unspoken pain, emotional silence, and the residue of generational violence.
In Bali’s humid stillness, surrounded by her ancestors’ stories, Arleen began to see how trauma isn’t just passed through DNA—it’s woven through behaviors, expectations, and the ways we love (or don’t). What she uncovered there wasn’t just about her family—it was about herself.
When she returned to Vancouver, she wasn’t the same woman who had left. She was softer, freer, more self-compassionate. The perfectionist armor was gone. What remained was someone who no longer needed to perform worthiness.
This is the heart of breaking generational trauma: awareness, compassion, and the radical act of choosing differently.
Arleen’s story reminds us that healing isn’t linear. When we stop striving to be perfect, we make space for something far more beautiful: being real.
So if you’ve ever wondered whether you can end the patterns that shaped you—the answer is yes. But it begins with awareness, honesty, and permission.
Listen to today's episode of Unmuted Love to hear Arleen’s full story of awakening, forgiveness, and the courage it takes to stop performing and start belonging—to yourself.
Love Matters,
Ce
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